The aroma of hoppin’ john — my stock new-year-day lucky food–is filling the air, warming us on this frigid (10degrees), but sunshiny First Day of 2018.
I’m a little skittish about making Resolutions… I’ve done it before, but I’m just not a Resolute person. I have only a passing understanding of Determination or what on earth a Firm Decision would be. Same way with Goals… The very word implies Effort and there is a whiff of competition that has never appealed to me.
I reject Bucket List, because I do not have a terminal diagnosis, and I sincerely hope to have done Everything before I get the diagnosis…
But just like the traditional lucky food, and kissing at midnight, I usually make a list on New Year Day. The List was aimed at Self-Improvement, being healthy, changing my habits… The usual stop smoking, stop drinking, lose weight, join a group, take a class…I Would Become a Better Person!!! January was always full of hope… By February, I would be making excuses, and March always saw me in the line of shame to d/c my gym membership.
Why did I spend so much time criticizing myself, always falling short of my expectations. I set myself up to fail, then beat myself up, feeling undisciplined, even lazy!? Some of those habits changed, but never because I wrote it down on New Year Day. Time flew in and changed me. It works much better that way.
At the ripe old age of 64, I see the Year Ahead much differently. I look at the Year as an Adventure, Each Day as a New Experience, Every moment present and aware. So I’ll call it my Adventure List? My Experience List? My Learning List? My Here’s What I Want to Do in 2018 List?
Whatever you want to call it, here it is…
(in no particular order and not necessarily complete)
1. Enjoy Each Moment, no judging
4. Spend Time with Family
5. Learn New Music
9. Spruce up the House
Asking a lot of myself, aren’t I? I hope you feel free from self-criticism, too. You don’t always need to Change yourself, trying to please or fit in. You Will Be Changed, believe me; that’s what Life is. Don’t be so determined to be something. Open yourself to Just Be. Enjoy the Journey.