The aroma of hoppin’ john — my stock new-year-day lucky food–is filling the air, warming us on this frigid (10degrees), but sunshiny First Day of 2018.
I’m a little skittish about making Resolutions… I’ve done it before, but I’m just not a Resolute person. I have only a passing understanding of Determination or what on earth a Firm Decision would be. Same way with Goals… The very word implies Effort and there is a whiff of competition that has never appealed to me.
I reject Bucket List, because I do not have a terminal diagnosis, and I sincerely hope to have done Everything before I get the diagnosis…
But just like the traditional lucky food, and kissing at midnight, I usually make a list on New Year Day. The List was aimed at Self-Improvement, being healthy, changing my habits… The usual stop smoking, stop drinking, lose weight, join a group, take a class…I Would Become a Better Person!!! January was always full of hope… By February, I would be making excuses, and March always saw me in the line of shame to d/c my gym membership.
Why did I spend so much time criticizing myself, always falling short of my expectations. I set myself up to fail, then beat myself up, feeling undisciplined, even lazy!? Some of those habits changed, but never because I wrote it down on New Year Day. Time flew in and changed me. It works much better that way.
At the ripe old age of 64, I see the Year Ahead much differently. I look at the Year as an Adventure, Each Day as a New Experience, Every moment present and aware. So I’ll call it my Adventure List? My Experience List? My Learning List? My Here’s What I Want to Do in 2018 List?
1. Enjoy Each Moment, no judging
4. Spend Time with Family
5. Learn New Music
9. Spruce up the House