Posted in Cemetery Saga, Sunday Report

Diggin’ up ‘stones…

Our Ancestor Archaeology has completed Phase 1. It was Hot, but an otherwise perfect day. Casey is a wizard with a hatchet and I’m pretty good at hauling off limbs, so I’m really proud of what we accomplished.

Let me tell you the whole story, copying from past blogs…

First visit to Emery Chapel Cemetery, 9-14-2023:

We took a mid-week trip to Ohio to visit the church founded in 1854 by my 4x great-grandfather, Adam Mayne. The building has been, of course, altered since then, but still sits in the same spot. There is also a cemetery where Adam was buried in 1857, possibly the first person to be buried there. Y’all know how much I love cemeteries and I was pretty excited to see this Major Patriarch’s gravesite, so imagine how bewildered I was to find that a tree – at least 50 years old — had grown up in the center of the Maynes’ headstones, a shrub had sprouted that added to the damage, covering several, and that the base of the tree was being used to throw broken limbs like it was a trash heap!!!

I was devastated. There were two guys working on the door of the church and I tried not to sound too hysterical when I expressed my dismay. They immediately recognized Adam’s name as their founder and took me inside to show me a glass case with a picture of Adam and Catherine, their bio, a picture of the original church, a plaque that honored him —

One of the reasons I want to be cremated and my ashes spread around is because I believe that a gravesite becomes a responsibility of your descendants, but that’s a way old-fashioned idea and who knows what my 4x great-grandchildren will think? I regularly visit five burial grounds in Southern Illinois, some down gravel roads or in the middle of cornfields, As I’ve haunted the cemeteries, I’ve never seen one so neglected, outright violated like this one, and I am moved to correct the situation. Keep your fingers crossed that the church-people will let me, because I have a Plan…

The church/cemetery is about 5 miles from John Bryan State Park where we camped. It’s a nice park and adjacent to Yellow Springs, a busy little village with a Hippie Vibe, interesting shops and restaurants. There are various and sundry nature preserves, biking trails, and even springs–ha! As part of the Plan, we’ll be happy to stay there again.

from “The Plan” posted 9-24-2023:

Thought I’d fill you in on my “cemetery rescue plan”…which is more like a “gravestone rescue plan”. I spoke with the Pastor of the church my 4x great-grandfather founded and he is fine with us going in and cleaning up the area where my Greats are buried. He was unsure about cemetery regulations, but I pointed out that I’m not going to actually Move anything, just uncover them and try to piece them back together. He offered the help of the church, talked about a re-dedication service when we have finished, and asked me to give a little talk about Adam and my other grandfathers who were central to the history of their church.

the original Emery Chapel, Clark County, Ohio
This is what Emery Chapel looked like in 1854

And now from our last trip, October 1-3, 2023

We felt a bit hurried by the changing weather, especially since the cemetery is North of our locale and frosts are imminent. Fall is a time when campsites are full-up, so we were lucky to find a couple of nights available October 1-3. It’s a nice 4.5 hour drive and we took off last Sunday morning.

I’m so proud of what we accomplished! I already knew that the gravestone of Sarah Ellis Mayne, my 3x great-grandmother, wife of B.F., was broken, but its engraving was still clear. I knew that other stones had been thrown in a heap under the shrub that was allowed to grow right through Sarah’s grave. We had not located Adam’s grave at all, though 4x great-grandmother, Catherine, and B.F.’s 2nd wife, Elizabeth, were both intact, sort of. All of these stones had originally been upright.

Here it is in pictures, best I could do…

This is before of the broken stones thrown into the bushes…

A work in progress as Casey dug out the shrub and used the weed-eater…

Before and After…

Can you believe the difference? What was most rewarding for us was finding the stone of Tobias and Emory, two of Sarah’s children who had died in infancy. Their stones had been thrown under the shrubs, (see the white ones above) so I don’t know where they originally stood. Sarah’s marker was a pretty even break, so we laid it down on the original base, leveled it, and put the babies’ stones at her head. I heard angels singing as we reunited the mother and infants.

One of the broken stones looked to be the bottom third, showing an illegible epitaph, of a larger grave that we assumed had been Adam’s. We also found a hand-size broken “rock” with an A and part of an M engraved on it, so I figure it’s probably going to be like a jig-saw puzzle.

Adam’s gravestone

It was a great day and after a shower back at camp–the shower nozzle was the size of a sink faucet and sprayed everywhere except on me, so I did a little dancing–we enjoyed an even in camp with hot dogs and fire-staring…

As we were leaving, we made one last trip by the cemetery. As we checked and admired our work, we noticed a stone sticking up – it almost tripped me, and ran down to grab a shovel. Sure enough, it is Adam’s stone, I think, but we didn’t have time to do a total excavation. We covered it back up and started planning to return.

Reuniting Sarah with her babies has brought me great joy. My ancestors haunt me in the best way, so I know that Adam is thrilled we took care of that first. Now it’s his turn and I’m so honored. We’re planning a return trip in the Spring…

Oh, yes, while we were working, a neighbor and church member came by and told us where Travelers’ Rest by A. Mayne was located! Just 3/4 mile down the road, there is a golf course where my family’s stagecoach stop stood nearly 200 years ago! No wonder I feel at home there.

We’re getting ready to fire up the wood burner, watching for the leaves to color up, and spending these cool days doing the Autumn chores in the garden. Hope you’re feeling cozy in your neck of the woods.

Peace

Posted in Evening Edition, Sunday Report

The Plan

Thought I’d fill you in on my “cemetery rescue plan”…which is more like a “gravestone rescue plan”. I spoke with the Pastor of the church my 4x great-grandfather founded and he is fine with us going in and cleaning up the area where my Greats are buried. He was unsure about cemetery regulations, but I pointed out that I’m not going to actually Move anything, just uncover them and try to piece them back together. He offered the help of the church, talked about a re-dedication service when we have finished, and asked me to give a little talk about Adam and my other grandfathers who were central to the history of their church.

the original Emery Chapel, Clark County, Ohio
This is what Emery Chapel looked like in 1854

We will drive Goldie back up to Yellow Springs next Sunday with shovels and trimmers and such, stay a couple of nights, and get as much done as we can.

Casey’s been splitting wood and I’ve been planting mums — very autumnal, doncha think?

Hope the sun is shining where you are…

Peace

Posted in Camp Sonnystone 2023, Sunday Report

Camp Sonnystone 2023: the Movie…

Just as I had anticipated, the days of Real Camp are over; the activities such as tie-dying, painting canvasses and birdhouses, making stained-glass thingies, playing in the pool, going to the zoo and the library long gone. We did paint some of the old birdhouses, and we did go to watch the horses run, but there was no camp theme song or ride in Grandpawpaw’s tractor.

But there was the usual celebration with Eville family and we even added a new member when Haley brought her new fiance’, Logan, along — Congratulations, Haley and Logan! And, of course, we made a sign with our Word of the Year: Harmony.

Since I took so few pictures, this year’s Movie is very repetitious but the subjects are darling. The music is from Clint Black’s D’lectrified album from wayback and he’s singing with Kenny Loggins, who wrote the song, “Harmony”. Sony mutes the sound on YouTube or Facebook, so this is the only place you can see it all — for now, anyway. Give it a watch..

August looks nice and easy, harvesting and preserving as well as putting out a second crop of squash and green beans, planting some peas when it’s a little bit cooler. I’ve got some books I’ve been trying to read for a while, and I hear Only Murders in the Building will soon start their 3rd season and I haven’t seen season 2, so there’s that. Hope you’re relaxing in your neck of the woods…

Peace

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Competition

It was a fiddly, accordion-y, hornpipe and reel kind of week at the North American Irish Dance Championships. The sparkles, the tans, the wigs were in abundance, along with Moms and Dads, Grandmas and Grandpas, Aunts and Uncles, and Super friend/fans. This isn’t exactly a sport, though it requires intense physical training, but perhaps the Olympics should add it. Every kid there — and there were around 3,000 competitors — had worked their heart out. My girls danced beautifully. Emma placed 7th (that’s in all of North America). Eliza was headed for the top 10 when she “bobbled” – almost fell – and the judges don’t allow that. Funnily, if she had actually fallen, she could have gone again, which seems wrong, but hey, I don’t make the rules. We had left to come home before she danced that set and I’m glad I wasn’t there. I was already feeling emotional, and my heart is broken to just hear about it.

I have avoided competitive activities because 1.) I get too nervous, like throwing up nervous before a performance; 2.) I hate to lose. 3.) Did I mention sick anxiety? I have the greatest admiration for anybody with enough gumption to get out there, work real hard, and try their best. To me, that place was full of winners.

My garden continues to be plagued with blossom end-rot, now involving the bell peppers. I didn’t have time to find some calcium before we left for Nashville, so we put some wood ashes around them, but it was a token effort. I’ve got some stuff coming from Amazon on Tuesday and I want to believe it’s going to fix everything. The thought of no homegrown tomatoes this year panics me.

The Peace/Bird Garden got some visits from deer – a Momma and two fawns – several weeks back, feasting on my garden phlox, and the birds have chewed the leaves of my sedum. I dug up a couple of phlox to put them into intensive care, replacing them with a couple of pots of lantana. The bird bath continues to be popular, the hummingbirds are buzzing around, the songbirds flock to the suet and sunflower feeders, keeping the garden in motion.

It’s comforting to see the bees…

In just a little over two weeks, the New Yorkers will be here! Since we had just a taste of the Joy that is All of our Family Being Together, I am thirsty for Camp Activities, Donut Bank, and simply Being Together. In the meantime, I’ve got some projects going, hopefully including a trip over to Carmi to see my friends’ garden and on to Grayville to spruce up Grandma and Grandpa Eaton’s grave. Stay cool, my friends!

Peace

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What’s goin’ on…

Hey, kids! It’s busy here at the Acres, but no excuses for not keeping in touch. Casey finished up painting the porch ceiling and we got it put back together just in time for the storms. We watched a couple of morning storms from there and it’s thrilling, but the middle-of-the-night events were windier and laden with lightning. There have been no serious tree-falls, just lots of branches and leaves strewn about. Casey had just been commenting that he hadn’t had to mow during the drought, but the vegetation has bounded back with a vengeance. The humidity has arrived and unpacked its bags for the summer, so here we go with the sweating. It’s Summertime, love.

The Edible Garden plants have jumped up, as well. Those three tomato plants that were so shocked during their transplant are suffering from blossom end rot. I don’t think it’s my watering, though it’s hard to tell now that we’ve gotten drenched, so I’m going to add some calcium. I’m glad that I bought three more of the better boys as back-up, but they are still pretty small.

We harvested the first tomatoes on Wednesday and the yellow squash and zucchini have put out a half-dozen or so fruits. We pulled one cucumber off today and it looks kind of puny. The hummingbirds and bees are loving the scarlet runner bean blooms. I’ll need to start harvesting the green beans once it dries out a bit, and there are a dozen sweet bell peppers growing strong.

My scheme to attract bees is working! The anise hyssop is in bloom and the bees have noticed. I put a bee house nearby and there’s some mud beneath the windvane for them to leave some cocoons.

Do you have big plans for the 4th? We do! We’ll drive to Nashville that morning and settle in for three days of the North American Irish Dance Championships, starring Emma and Eliza, of course. Emma dances on Wednesday, Eliza on Friday. The Jrs. are meeting up with us on Wednesday. I will get to meet a lot of people I’ve only seen on Instagram and hug some old friends again, too. Verry excited.

Have a great holiday celebration! Stay safe!

Peace

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Almost summer…

Happy Fathers’ Day to those who celebrate! My Dad’s been gone 26 years now, but he lives in me, in my music, in my reading and writing, and he eggs me on when I’m being hilarious. When I miss him, I put on his favorite songs and we sing along.

Bobby Mayne, 1947, 19 years old

It’s been very summer-like here at the Acres. The days float by in a lazy daze…mornings in the garden, afternoons working on the tan, researching and writing in the evenings. We broke up the routine this week and headed out to the racetrack.

If you didn’t know, Churchill Downs, in Louisville, KY, shut down their track and moved the remaining races of their Spring season to our humble little track, Ellis Park. Ellis has been going downhill for many years due to owners who are not really horse people, but Churchill bought it back last year, though they haven’t really done much to fix it up. They were caught off-guard having to open up a month earlier than planned, and it looked pretty bad Friday, but I have read that they got some help in and are catching up, getting the tents put up and the picnic tables out. I only lost 70cents, so that’s a good sign.

After watching a few races, we crossed the bridge over to Henderson for the W.C. Handy Blues Fest. It’s been a while since we attended and it felt good to be there.

Ellis Tinsley…just one of the great musicians at the Handy Fest…

We’ve had little rain, so our water bill will be astronomical. I love the peaceful feeling of watering my plants, praising them for their growth. We’re struggling for bees in the veggie garden, but my anise hyssop is about to bloom — if that doesn’t attract them, I think I’ll buy some cocoons next winter.

This week is Willard Library’s Genealogy “Almost-Midnight Madness”. I’m registered for morning speakers on Monday, Wednesday, and Friday. There will be free swag and food trucks, as well as new info to help my research.

It’s supposed to rain today, but I think it will be later on this evening before we see the precip. Hope your week has just the right blend of sun and clouds!

Peace

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Damn Chiggers

I’ve been outside on all these beautiful, sunny, hot days — down at the firepit, in the gardens, and just generally walking through the grass — and am now infested with chigger bites, itchy welps wherever my clothes touch, especially “down there” and around my waist (or where it’s supposed to be). Why me? Whining about such a small, tiny, wee, little bug that seems to love my pasty white skin is not a good look, but damn, it’s so aggravating. I cannot wear deet around all the time, though I’ve got gallons of lotions and sprays. Over the years, I’ve learned to Not Scratch (much), and was hoping they’d tire of me.

We were going to wait until the 4th of July to put up the pool, but it’s Hot, so we filled ‘er up yesterday…and found a leak. This is probably the last year for this pool and it’s given us a good run for our $, so Casey’s out buying whatever it is he needs to fix it. The chlorinated water helps dry out the chigger bites, so now I can dip off after I’ve been out in the weeds.

The Gardens are looking great. We haven’t had a decent rain in weeks and none predicted, but I’m babying them along with regular watering. Several of the tomatoes on the plants that were out during the monsoons have had blossom end rot, so I’m trying to stay consistent with my attention. Fingers crossed.

It seems like Real Summer now! Hope you’re soaking up some rays where you are!

Peace

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Scenes from JAM’s first recital

Samantha starred in yet another recital this week. Jojo’s Academy of Music has been fun for both of us; I can’t describe the joy I feel when I see her learn the piano. You may have noticed that I love playing the piano, can’t really pass a keyboard without stopping for a quick spurt of Maple Leaf Rag, and so it moves me deeply to share that passion with #4 grandie. I hope she still finds it fun as we move on — it’s going to be hard to let her go to another teacher, eventually, but I’m enjoying every minute for now.

Nana and Papa attended and brought Samantha’s cousins, Morgan and Elizabeth, so we were very excited. Here’s the Show in its entirety…

I’m heading out to Mom and Dad’s mausoleum to update their bouquet. Tomorrow I’m visiting with my cousins and doing a wee bit of emergency grave decorating at Grandma and Grandpa Eaton’s naked site. The rest will wait until my next go-round on Day of the Dead in early November.

Whether you’re at the cemeteries, at the parks, or your backyard, I hope you enjoy the holiday!

Peace

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Evening Edition

My grandies have been soo entertaining this week-end! Samantha danced beautifully at her recital…(she’s the red-haired little girl in the center)

Emma and her date went to their Jr. Prom…Is she beautiful or what?

Those are my #1 and #4 grandies, and #2 and #3 are equally adorable.

I planted green beans and zinnias last week and the seedlings are popping up. I still need to plant three tomato plants, but otherwise it’s all over but the watering…and the weeding…and the Miracle-gro-ing.

I’ve been going through old clothes and tossing — Lord help me, I’m a clothes hoarder! I blame it on our abundance of storage; the clothes got stored upstairs and I’m just now noticing that I’ve run out of drawer space. I don’t believe I’m ever going to fit into those size 8s again, but there they are, just in case… I’ve thrown out about a half-ton, including old shoes, which is even more pathetic, and I’m feeling much lighter. Still, there’s all those souvenir t-shirts that the kids will have to give away when I head to the home. I just can’t part with my Seussical the Musical tee, or my Steve Martin, Banjo Boy shirt…

Next Saturday is the JoJo’s Academy of Music First Piano Recital, starring Samantha. She’s really done well and I’m super thrilled that she likes playing so much. I’ll see you on the other side of that event. Have a great week!

Peace

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Mom’s Day

My mom was a typical 1950s stay-at-home Mom, and to me her life looked like one long summer vacation. She and the neighborhood ladies started their days with coffee from a percolator that perked all day just in case someone dropped in, and often someone did. When I was in 6th grade she got a part-time job working at Sears and made life-long friends. She was always in a bowling league, played bridge, bunco, and any other game she and her pals dreamed up. After I left home, she and Dad started playing golf and she was pretty good at it–definitely better than Dad!

Mom was my inspiration in that respect: I never wanted a career, didn’t really want to work at all, but if I must, I prefer part-time. I just wanted to keep house, cook, take care of the kids, hang out with my girlfriends, watch soap operas, and get a good tan. The games/sports thing was never “Me”, but I can loaf with the best.

Now that I’m retired, My life is pretty much one long summer vacation. I wish Mom were here to share it with me. We could play cards all day and sit out on the swing every evening. She would have loved this house and fixing it up. She always did admire my garden. I miss her every day…

My kids have remembered me with gifts and hugs. I’m so grateful. Hope you’re enjoying this day!

Peace